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“I’m too old to apologize.”

Someone said those very words to me after a particularly nasty conversation.  I was dumbfounded.  Really? Being sorry has an age limit to it?

I can understand, notice I didn’t say I agree with, the old adage that one is too old to change.  You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. People get set in their ways, habits form, and I imagine there comes a time when you lose the desire to break your bad habits.  

But too old to apologize?

When you wrong someone, you wrong them…no matter how old you are.  When you are mean to someone for no reason other than you can be, IF you come to the realization that you were a jerk, you owe them an apology.

I firmly believe that the day I stop learning, is the day I die.  The day I close my mind to the idea that I can’t learn anything else, that I’m never wrong, that no matter what I do, I’m right…is the day I die.

Maybe I’ll feel differently in 40 years, I don’t know, but right now?  The idea that I would use my (more) advanced age as a means to justify my poor behavior?  Well, that’s just ridiculous.

Wrong is wrong is wrong….and even IF you don’t realize that your words are hurtful, or that your actions caused pain…well, once you realize that you did cause someone hurt, don’t you think at the very least you should examine your role in the transgression?

I enjoy reading Carolyn Hax’s column in the “Washington Post.” Today I read a letter from a young lady that had to cancel a trip with friends.  The friend that planned the trip became very nasty.  She took her response to the extreme. 

The ADvice given?  IF you are afraid of someone’s reaction perhaps that someone isn’t someone you want to be close to.

And that got me thinking…what if the person who’s reaction you fear is someone that you feel indebted too?  A parent for instance?  What if you feel that perhaps you are a bad person for wanting to distance yourself?  What if you feel guilty for even entertaining those thoughts?

And then I remember those words:

“I’m too old to apologize.”

And I ask myself-Aren’t I too old to NOT be able to stand up for myself?

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